Well my first problem with my mom is that she expects me to be a genius. When I was in 3rd – 6th grade I got straight A’s. But at the end of 6th I started falling off. I realized that…She never says good job or is even phased that I get A’s. All she says is "Well you supposed to get straight A’s so Im not surprised." But when my cousin goes up from a F to a D its like its party time.
So about 2-3 weeks ago was the first week of school. That friday we had a Science pretest. I never really learned science so the test was challenging for me. And the CPS system has this new thing called parent portal so the parents can go online and see the grades. Well my mom went on and saw my grade was 67%.
So she said " How are you failing the first week of school? That means you weren’t trying hard enough." And she turned my phone off.
So since she wanted to be like that, I asked her if I could be in Science Club after school so that I can learn more Science. She told me no. So when I do bad I get in trouble but when I try to do good, I cant do it. I have given up on school because nothing i try to do pleases her.
So I wanna know, how can I approach her and tell her how I feel.
Question 2..
She has a new live in boyfriend. He is nice and stuff but my mom puts him before me.
Background Info:
. I would be at my grandma’s house all weekend and when I leave my house the dishes are all clean. When I come back sunday, Its a sink full of dishes and they want ME to wash them.
So most times I just go in my room and dont do them. Its like it’s no point in even arguing with her. At the end of the day, she could careless about whats fair!
So I want to know how do I let her know that I am feeling neglected? (BTW she is slightly racist. So if I tell her I feel neglected she will tell me that I am acting like a white child)
Question 3…..
My mom is always tellin my business to everyone she knows. Then wants to get mad when I dont talk to her anymore. And she likes to snoop n read my diary.
Background Info:
: I expressed me feelings to her and then I heard she told my aunt and she told my cousins. So I decided I will not tell her my personal problem. I’ll write it down. So after I wrote almost a whole book of my feelings, I find out that she found my diary and read it. Not only that but she ripped out all the bad stuff. So I just said forget it. So I started going on websites like Tagged and MySpace so that I can write what I want. But she found my Tagged and deleted it. My cousin told my mom I had a Myspace but I lied and said I deleted. So after that… I started talking on the phone. But she gets mad at me for that because she isnt very fond of the way me n my friends act. Like we get loud and stuff. We talk about boys and other stuff girls do.
So now she always asks me questions about my life. I try to tell her but some of the stuff, She gets mad over and she just wants to shut me out.
So Yahoo….please help me. I just want for my mother to stop treating me like a problem child. She has me feeling depressed. I cant talk to her without bein Criticized on what I do. I feel like Im all alone.
The ultimate question is How can I get her to listen to me, and stop putting off my problems and issues as stupid stuff?
Thank you alot. Best Answer gets 10 points